part of personal growth is learning what makes you happy and what doesn’t work.
in the last year, i have learned many things about myself and this weekend, i had another experience that made me realize why i get disappointed all the time. in relationships, we expect things to go a certain way; wanting things, hoping your partner will do or say the right things at the right time, however this is not the case. one can never really expect this because it is superficial. every situation is different and this illusion is pure ridiculous.
my personal experiences have taught me that i expect things to happen the way i would like them too and when they don’t, i get all emotional and the devil comes out. then the obvious happens; i say things or do things to actually make the situation worse. then again, if i would just learn to keep it simple, no expectations, surprising things happen.
in any relationship, we all want our partners to understand and love us unconditionally. many of my relationships, love or otherwise, have broken down because my expectations were to high. i realized this because this weekend something amazing happened and i did not expect it at all. my heart told me to go with it and i did without expectations. i was fulfilled in a way that also made me realize how true love really can be shown in many ways and how you can miss the moments if you don’t take chances.
in the end, it is the only those who allow themselves to be loved that will be rewarded with kindness, understanding and compassion. grab every moment you can and hold on to them as if it were your last.