how to perfectly not love ones’ self

i had the most intelligent conversation with someone last night that i have had in months probably or maybe never; this person challenges me on a communication level and i love it.


this is what was asked of me:

People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are …do you really want that responsibility?

we were obviously talking about unconditional love, something i feel so deeply about and this individual gave me answers to questions i never thought possible. however, i was really impressed and had to share. as a great blogger, i never tell anyone who i speak too, but use random conversations i have had with individuals who say something to trigger thoughts. as in this post.

this makes me think, did all the men i loved or have ever been with felt responsible for my happiness? is that why they are not with me today? good question. i feel the last one, the love of my life did, hence why he had to let me go. but i remember saying to him one day a while back, i wasn’t any happier away from him. which brings me to another conversation that burns my ass. people always saying that until i can truly love myself, i can never love another.

horse shit! we are never really happy with ourselves because we are constantly evolving and learning. also, never perfect. if we were, how would there be room for growth? so, today, i do not feel less in love with myself but sorry for those who do not share my sentiments and can’t for the life of me see the greatest love they will ever know.