the question was asked this week, whether having a man in my life was that important to me. i find this very funny because i don’t believe in life we actually ever need another person to make us who we are but i can say this; the idea of having your ideal partner is on everyone’s mind.…

i have come to realize that no matter how hard you work at something, how great you think something is, there is always people trying to destroy it. people say or do things that make you feel two inches tall, like nothing is ever good enough or they find criticism in everything

growing up, things were like that and as an adult, i find it very hard to keep my spirits up because of people.…

when you are interested in someone, how do we not set ourselves up for a fall?

expectations.

do not expect any more than another can give and know the signals. it is the hardest thing to do backing off when you know another person really isn’t into you, especially if you have already created the illusion of being with that person.…

life is a crazy idea that someone invented the minute they decided sex was legal after marriage or maybe not – stupidity!

we work hard, we pay bills, some of us even set goals to keep us sane. are we really that oblivious to the reality of life that we can’t see that it is a some big experiment and we are failing?…

In the last few days, I’ve been watching and listening to people. Observing their very essence, how they say things, how they move, how they communicate with other people.  I have come to realize that no matter how unique we all are people all play the same game. …

i have been so intrigued with my own self doubt about relationships, last night i picked the brains of two very different men. one, very shy and probably will never really speak out loud and another who is very mature and has been married for at least 35 years.…